I was there and know exactly what you did to those around you. You do not do the things you do for your children out of the goodness of your heart, you do them out of guilt for what you have done to them. I was there when you made Davy eat his vomit and carry the rest of it around in a bucket. I was there when you physically attacked Tammy during a church/cult service, where you had all of those people, Jim, Royce, Steven and the rest of them, jump on top of my sister and physically slam her to the ground and start casting demons from her. I was there when you took a pot of boiling water off the stove and threw it onto my brother. I was there when you lit matches under Eddie's pants at the dining room table while Hugh held him down in the chair. I was there when you performed an exorcism on my brother. I was there when car keys were dropped into the fish bowl at the door. I know why Eddie calls Hugh a Faggot. I know why you have no Christian symbols in your house, I can go on and on, I have read my pediatric records I could fill a book with the events of my childhood. I was there.
For the first time in my life, I am starting to feel better. My mother now knows that I remember, I remember it all. What an exhilarating feeling has overcome me, almost making me giddy, how strange, or is it. Life is so strange and the events that take place throughout our lives are the very experiences that mold us into who we end up being. How is it I could be born and raised in an environment that was so destructive and actually manage to come out on the other side alive?
Two people that grew-up in the same situation committed suicide, so I am the lucky one at least I can see and have not been blinded by the Christian Bullshit. I have never felt safe from them but today, I do. I have always been on guard, and worried somehow they would find a chink in my armor and pierce my heart. I have lived a defensive life, never trusting or believing that I could be any different from that. Today is such a breath of fresh air, now they know, I was there and I remember.
I spoke to my mother and stepfather, Hugh in March of 2005 I believe. I knew that the deal on the building was closing soon and they would be coming into a tremendous amount of money, approximately 4.1 million dollars. In the past whenever money showed up all hell would break loose, my older sister would show up magically from somewhere back east, claiming she was owed. My older brother would be at her heels with the same type of claim. My mother and Hugh would become these aloof people that I no longer knew and my little sister and brother would ride all the waves that all the craziness provided. This type of behavior would usually happen over a couple of hundred thousand dollars or so, I could only imagine what would happen with a few million.
I decided to sit down with Mom and Hugh, tell them how I felt, cross my fingers and hope that for the first time in my life it could be different.
We all went into the Drawing Room and it turned out that my oldest two daughters were also with us. I thought about asking them to leave, but then decided that this would be my final plea, it might not be a bad idea to have them present. I also knew that with there presence Mom and Hugh would watch there P’s and Q’s. For an hour and a half I spoke to them, confiding in them with the worries that I had and how destructive all this behavior had been in the past. Of course, Mom was acting as if she had no idea what I was talking about, but Hugh was different, he was intently listening to me. I had never seen this behavior before and held some hope that I was actually getting through. He was asking questions like, which time are you speaking of? He is British, hence the pretentious way that he speaks. What exactly happened? What do you think your sister wanted? How do you know that they will both show up again? What do you think they are owed? What do you remember about that situation? You remember when your father took you on visitation and bought himself sandals that Tammy had just picked out and wanted for herself? As he would interrupt periodically with a different inquiry I began to figure out that these questions were not out of concern on how to keep it from happening again. These were probing questions. My mother of course babbling away with her banter of nonsense of how none of her children have ever loved her. All she wanted was to worship Jesus and preach the word of God. I watched both of there faces trying to see if my message was getting through, I told them that I would not go through the family drama of how is owed what and why, I would not put myself through the phones calls of my mother screaming about how her children hate her and how the Placek’s have such bad genes. Or about how much she has done for Tammy, Eddie and Karen, how Sarah and Philip have given up there inheritance for the older three, I was not going to watch all the hurt faces as each kid was used to beat up the other one. Mom I am not taking this roller coaster ride with you again. At the first site that insanity on your part I will turn and walk away. What are you taking about? Mom said, Hugh screamed, WOMAN, SHUT UP! AND LET HER SPEAK, the anger shook my core.
This moment made me gasp, for I was witnessing an interaction that was all to familiar, an interaction between two of the most sick, demented, selfish people I knew, I became instantly ill. My stomach twisted into knots and I froze, I was instantly thrown back in time, but now I had the experience of life following me there, this was not a simple interruption between two parents, one chastising the other for not allowing the child to speak. This was Four Play, sensuality seeped from my mothers every pore, she dripped with anticipation as she turned to Hugh, it was only for a moment, but in that moment my life flashed through my head. I gulped, looked at my two girls, who had not noticed what had just happened and said come on, that’s enough, lets go. I walked out of the Drawing Room we all grabbed our jackets in the foray and headed to the front door. As I turned to say goodbye I realized nothing would ever change with them, what I did not realize at the time was everything would be changing for me.
The next time that I saw them would prove to be the last time that I would hold my tongue. Until now I have not mentioned much about my childhood to them, I saw what they did to my older sister and brother.
Realizing at an early age that silence was indeed golden. Looking back I believe that they had begun to revel in the fact that they had gotten away with the evil deeds they had done. Their cult members had either died, run away, never to be heard from, or committed suicide, gosh, that is tough to write down. I always want to cry when I think of that, could I have done something, I was a kid when I watched all these horrors being committed. As an adult I have struggled to piece it all together and as my puzzle seems to outline what happened I realize that I am fortunate to have survived. The story that I am about to share with you is true and an honest account of my life. I can do something now, I can tell you what happened, by writing this down on paper I can make it real. This will make their lives worth something. They are not the horrible sinners my mother claims them to be, they did not have demons possess their souls, the devil did not make them turn away from her, they were only people that had been filled with horrible grief, depression and guilt. My mother killed their souls, destroyed their minds and crushed their hearts, they were only human and they’re in lies her monopoly on their lives.
Mom has called off and on since last Easter but I did not answer the phone or return her phone calls. Her messages were as usually completely bonkers and it would be impossible for me to even tell you what she said. Mom will leave you a very long message and after you listen to the entire thing you will have absolutely no idea of what she said or why she called. The tone of her voice always gives away what mood she is in, mostly she is pissed off and looking for someone to be angry at. Well in good form she continued with her phone calls and began to expand them to the girls cell phones. As Christmas 2005 drew near she began to call more random people, of course I only know this because they called me to see if I was all right. To date she has called my x-husband of seven years, his mother and my girlfriend in the city. I thought that as the new year approached she would stop her random calls and get on with other stuff. The phone calls kept coming, now to my home phone, my cell phone, Katy’s cell phone and Becky’s cell phone. I was about to drive Becky back to school and I decided that this would be a day to call Mom and tell her that the girls are starting back to school and they did not need the distraction of her phone calls. I called and she spoke to me as if no time had passed and nothing out of the ordinary had happened, I always laugh to myself, wondering how long she can maintain such a façade. About two minutes into the conversation it began, I will tell the jest of it, I told her to stop calling and leaving random messages about what had happened this past summer, they needed to concentrate on school. She said, I forgive them, there is nothing to forgive, you kicked them out of the house, threw there stuff in garbage sacks, changed the locks, she interrupts, I have a call can you hold on, No, if this is not important enough to stay on the line with me about then there is nothing further to say. She clicked off. Understand that while this conversation is taking place I can hear Hugh’s voice in the background yelling, Get off the phone Melba, phone Melba, get off. I did not stay on the phone I hung up and that was it.
A couple of days later I decided that I needed to call and tell her once more not to call the girls, I did not feel she truly understood me the first time. Especially since just that morning she had left a message on Katy’s cell phone about liberating her jaw and calling her, or something close to that. I called her on her cell phone, Mom you have to stop calling the girls and leaving messages about liberating their jaws, what she says, are you monitoring their phone calls, only when you leave repeated insane messages and they call to tell me you called yet again. Telling the girls that they have not told me the entire story and other such references to this past summer, this has to stop. The point is Mom, Sarah and Philip took my 18-year-old daughter to bars and that is wrong. She interrupts and says, they are weak minded and were influenced by Becky’s overwhelming desire to go. They are grown adults that should have known better, they are my sister and brother, they know how I feel about that type of behavior, they did it anyway. She interrupts again, well; you took your babies to a bar the last time your sister was here. I said, so that’s the way you want to play Mom; I can top that one Mom, when I was a little girl you took me to Swinger Parties! She began to scream and pull the phone away from her and right before I heard the phone go click, she is screaming, I will never get rid of the Placek's. This was the first time in my entire life I ever said anything about my childhood, ever. For the first time also, she did call me back again and again, it was silent, not a normal response for her at all. Normally she would call and call yelling and screaming each time about how persecuted she has been and then it would turn into a sarcastic apology generally on the twentieth phone call. Yes all in the same day. But this was so different, she was silent for the first time all you could here was her screaming, what I don't know. But, how nice it was to have had the tables turned for the first time in my life. Her in audible madness and screaming insanities and I was just at peace with myself.
Just an odd time in my life I thought I would share for people who care about what happens to me and mine.
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